Why Believers In Christ Should Not Have Casual Sex.

Sexual immorality spreads like a plague throughout most Christian churches. Perhaps this issue continues because there are few pastors who are willing to address the seriousness of this sin and get to the root cause of it. Proverbs 1:7 says that “The fear of the lord is the beginning of knowledge: but fools despise wisdom and instruction.” The definition of a fool can be described as a person who acts unwisely. While the definition of wise can be described as one who has experience or good judgment. A woman who claims to be a Christian while yet having a boyfriend is without an understanding of God, she is vulnerable, exposed, and left out in the open to rot by men who have used her. My goal in this article is to help men and women go back to the written word of God and find their sense of worth and self-value so that they can reestablish their standards and make it into the kingdom of Heaven.

Heaven awaits for all who want to go, but many men and women have become distracted by the images that they see on the television, or by the secular music that they hear playing in the background of their lives. Society today promotes a culture of sexual promiscuity, casual sex, and outward adornment. What most people think that they want, they have no understanding of the spiritual darkness that is keeping them bound from growing in Christ. In conversation with people, I often hear them say that they have a relationship with God, however many of them are in entanglements and ungodly soul ties with different people. I want to say that when a person has a healthy relationship with God, there is a certain sense of merit that he will place in their life. God restores law into the lawless, holiness into the unholy, and righteousness into the unrighteous. There is nothing holy or righteous about spending alone time around someone who you are not married to. In fact, I want to prove that having such relations often arises out of men exploiting women for sex.

Casual sex culture arises out of a society that is produced by men who capitalize off a woman’s promiscuity and low self esteem. In the book of Exodus, God makes known his laws and statues to the Israelites in the wilderness of Egypt. One of his laws is written in Exodus 22:16-17, which reads, “And if a man entice a maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his wife. If her father utterly refuse to give her unto him, he shall pay money according to the dowry of virgins.” Casual sex in the bible was not normal. A woman was either a virgin, married, or a prostitute. These laws helped both men and women place value on a woman’s virginity and it also held men accountable for the women that they slept with if it was done unlawfully in the first place. The word “entice” can be described as the action of attracting or tempting by offering pleasure or advantage. A maid in the bible was typically a young unmarried virgin and the word betrothed means to whom one is engaged to. So, in summary, if a man were to sleep with a virgin, he was required to marry her. However, if the father of the virgin did not find the man honorable enough to be with his daughter the man was required to make a restitution and pay for taking advantage of the woman.

Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. 1 corinthians 6:18

Now many will say, “yeah, but majority of these women today are not virgins, so this doesn’t apply,” but this way of thinking is what reenforces sexual promiscuous women. When a man has sex with a woman outside of marriage whether she is married or not, he is devaluing not only himself but the woman who he is using for sexual gratification. Sexual deviancy has gotten so gruesome in society that many women today want sexual liberation so that they too can be like men. What these women don’t understand is that men who are sexually promiscuous are not honorable men and they are often less likely to get married.

In closing we can conclude that when a man has sex with a woman outside of marriage, he is defiling her. How many women today would be married if they were not enticed to give their virginities to ungodly men? I am by no means seeking to remove accountability from off the laps of woman, nor am I trying to make men bad guys. Rather I want to expose the fundamental submissive nature that women have that tend to lead them down a continuous path of self destruction. Exposing this will expose the fundamental role in leadership that all men were born to have. Sexual immorality is self destruction because we are not using our bodies to glorify God through marriage. “For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour;” 1 Thessalonians 4:3-4. In order to make heaven we must repent and turn back to God with all of our hearts. The bible is filled with instructions that will add character to our lives, it will give us self-worth, and self esteem. Jesus Christ has defeated the sin of lust and sexual immortally at the cross. Now it is our job to confess our sins and walk in our new lives in Christ.